Are You Motivated?

Posted: July 24, 2010 in Uncategorized

What Do We Really Need?

Anthony Robbins tells the story of Sylvester Stallone (Sly) so well.  I have included it below in a YouTube video.  I really recommend you listen to it.  The just of the story is the same old idea: “If you want it bad enough, you will make it happen.”  The truth was never more precise when considering a person’s health.

According to Maslow we have a hierarchy of needs.  That needs pyramid looks like this:

  1. Physiological
  2. Safety
  3. Social
  4. Esteem
  5. Self

The basis of Maslow’s motivation theory is that human beings are motivated by unsatisfied needs, and that certain lower factors need to be satisfied before higher needs can be satisfied. According to Maslow, there are general types of needs (physiological, survival, safety, love, and esteem) that must be satisfied before a person can act unselfishly. He called these needs “deficiency needs.” As long as we are motivated to satisfy these cravings, we are moving towards growth, toward self-actualization. Satisfying need is healthy, while preventing gratification makes us sick or act evilly.

Now I am not going to jump into how each of these is important.  But what I will do is speak about how we can tap into these for understanding change behaviour.

Do I Really Need To Change?

This is an excellent quest.  As a health coach, I hear this quite often.  I used to get upset, because internally I thought, “yeah you dummy, unless you want diabetes!” However, overtime I matured in my thinking and really thought about the question, “do I really need to change?”  I came to the conclusion that, in fact, no you don’t need to change.  What you need to do is prioritize and recreate a reality.  Is this change?  Yes and no, its change in the fact that you will need to rethink your current strategy, especially if it is making you sick (and being overweight is making you sick). Lets think about this for a moment to understand the addiction.

An alcoholic, do they think they have a drinking problem?  The ones I have met personally do not think so.  However, what is the problem?  Is it the alcohol?  Is it the person?  Is it both?  Confusion insets and the meaning can be lost.  However, the problem lies within the need to drink.  What need are they not fulfilling?  What are they trying to substitute through the use of alcohol?  Answer this and answer the problem.  Its not as hard as you think.  Ask yourself, “What do I need?”  What is my reality?  Others are NOT my reality, I am my reality and what do I need to exist?  Often the answer can be as simple as love.

I Told Them Once But They Didn’t Listen

This is a fatal error of many trainers, health coaches, health care professionals, whoever may be trying to “help”.  In fact many people become “enablers” in that, they think they are helping but in actuality they are making worse.  Motivation doesn’t happen overnight.  Let me paraphrase and say it this way: “change doesn’t happen overnight.”

Smokers are a prime example.  The odds of someone successfully quitting cold turkey is slim however powerful it may be.  In fact, smokers will try to quit about 9 times before they are completely successful.  Typically the thought process is like this:

  1. Denial about the fact
  2. Someone starts to nag (influence)
  3. The addict tries to change for someone else’s reality
  4. Failure
  5. The addict try to change for themselves
  6. Possible Failure
  7. The addict overcomes their brain/thought process
  8. Success

The take home story is this:

  1. Realize that a new reality may be necessary
  2. Realize there may be a need to satisfy
  3. Realize that you are in control of your mind
  4. Realize you are your own reality and no one else is responsible for it

The graph above works for eating addictions as well.  Are you overweight?  Unless you have a metabolic or genetic problem (which most don’t) you are addicted to eating.

Your thought process changes your physiology

Stress, worry, anxiety; all of these causes the release of chemicals into the blood stream that result in a lowered immune system and pain.  More than not, you CHOOSE this reality.  You choose to respond with rain and not sunshine and just like nicotine, these chemicals are ADDICTIVE!

So start switching your reality by becoming positive.  I don’t mean Prozac, weird happy, positive.  This type of positive is like those people dancing down the street and beating a drum while wearing rags.  You don’t need to do that.  Think of a leader you admire when you get upset.  Save face and put on that leadership mask.  You will be amazed at the changes around you when you don’t respond.

Summary

  1. Don’t try to bite off more than you can chew.
  2. Set one fundamental goal (loose 20kg in 8 months) and several small technical goals (go to gym 2-3 times this week, make healthier food choices)
  3. Don’t lie to yourself.  This only makes it worse.  If you are overweight don’t be in denial.  Don’t look at the next fat guy and say but he is bigger than me.  Accept your need for a new reality.
  4. Count your blessings.  Name three things you are happy for when you go to sleep at night.
  5. Don’t be SICK!  If you are a food, sex, nicotine, alcohol addict, then you are sick.  If you are constantly negative, you are sick!   Get well by simply starting to rethink your strategy.  Don’t expect a change overnight but expect to make it.
  6. Don’t let people change you, change yourself.

Be A Warrior!

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